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I'm a naturalized Caribbean immigrant in the grand old U.S.A. I live in the Hillcrest neighborhood of Ward 7 and I'm a forever-journalist. I started my first career as a magazine editor and I haven't been able to give it up. When I started this blog, I was knee-deep into my fourth career as a government public relations specialist. However, I have been heading up my editorial staffing company, Invisible Colours LLC out of my Ward 7 neighborhood. I'm expanding my company's brand by offering video production and other social media technologies for clients. This blog follows my journey as a 40-something-year old in Washington, D.C. Married for several years, I have three kids--a boy and two girls. I am blessed, and I'm loving all that God has given me. I have a master's in journalism from Columbia University and a bachelor's of arts from the University of the West Indies. I hope I can offer a little insight into my life and my experiences. Writing serves as a catharsis for me. It is what I do best. It is what I love. It is who I am.

Friday, January 14, 2011

On the Tucson Shooting

This Saturday's shooting in Tucson, Arizona, had a chilling effect on this nation. There are a couple of issues that come out from what happened.

First, it points to what happens when we allow freedom of speech and dialogue to get pushed past the envelope. Yes, the shooter was wrong for what he did. But I think he bought into some of the negative rhetoric that some political leaders have pushed as "healthy debate" and "disagreeable dialogue." A debate on the issues, I agree with. Telling folks to "reload" or to "target" any members of Congress is beyond reproach. Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

Public service is a choice. People do it because they generally want to improve their own living conditions as well as those around them. To be targeted for doing something that takes most people out of their comfort zone is well, just plain foolish. We can disagree. Everyone comes from a life perspective that's worth something, that's worth listening to. The shooter, at 22, could have gotten involved in the political process by joining groups and associations where his opinions could be heard; join political organizations where he can effect change from within. Trying to kill the congressmember was a puerile school-yard-bully mentality that just doesn't have a place in adult conversations. Of course, a lot of dialogue is coming out that Jared Loughner was mentally ill.

This was a great post by another blogger on the political rhetoric. http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2011/01/lets-get-this-straight.html

On another level, here we go again with the controversial second amendment, the right to bear arms. I remember a high school in Colorado, Columbine to be exact, back in 1999, when two teenagers took it upon themselves to shoot several of their classmates and some teachers before taking their own lives. I was in my late 20s back then. But I remembered thinking, "where did they get those guns at their ages." Now, I have family members in different parts of this country who own guns. They use rifles for hunting, for sport. I'm not sure if they've ever used it to protect themselves. So, on some level, I can understand the need for a gun. Living in the District of Columbia, many would argue that gun ownership is a good way to protect oneself. That, I'm not sure.

This gun shooting reminds me of some other high profile gun killings. A couple of years ago it was the Virginia Tech shooter, Seung-Hui Cho. And then, many youngsters who shot their parents and then shot other kids at school. For a while, that was common place. The one that really got to me was the recent case of Nicholas Browning, a “good” kid from Maryland, who shot his mom, dad and two younger brothers before heading out to play video games with friends. Then, he pretended he came home to a bloody scene. Wow, definitely something out of Criminal Minds. It pains me that his mom and dad, unknown to them, raised their own murderer.

Check his picture out. He looked like a sweet youngster.

Killing someone in real life is not akin to a video game you could take off and start over. It's permanent and there are consequences. Unfortunately, young people with mental diseases are not all being diagnosed at the right time or even at all. It's only when they do something like Saturday's mass killing, then, the buttons are clicked or the linkages are made. More often than not, it's too late for several victims who are either dead, disabled, hurt or scarred for life. From what I've read, most of the FBI checks for potential gun owners tend to be only for arrests or problems along those lines. However, if the person has never been arrested, that still doesn't mean he or she should qualify for gun ownership. It's difficult to figure out how the gun owner would have prevented Loughner from buying one. I don't think he was ever in a psychiatric facility, unlike the Virginia Tech shooter, who still qualified for a gun.

There needs to be a meeting of the minds to discuss how one can prevent mentally ill folks and those who intend to do harm to others from purchasing or acquiring guns. Even if they do find other weapons of choice, like knives or hand grenades, I think a person will have a better chance of getting away. Ironically, Loughner was kicked out of community college, like the Virginia Tech shooter, who had some issues at school as well. Will it be a violation of privacy if colleges report to someone--maybe not law enforcement--but some other group, about the kids that are thrown out of school? Will it be a violation of civil rights? Or is there some other way for various government agencies to have a conversation, to pass along information, to protect its people--especially at the state level.

There are many layers to this. And as I enter my 40th year on this planet, there are so many things I've observed that seemed preventable. Difficult to figure out, but something needs to be done. There seems to be a lack of respect for human life and other human beings. I'm wondering where that hatred is coming from. Maybe we need a return of civility, where manners was respected, and maybe, a little prayer in school.

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Financial Nuggets

A woman I consider a friend once told me to be successful, you have to make a salary above your age. Interesting. So, at 40, you should be making upward of 40 grand, if you apply her logic. And when I was 25, I should be making upward of that. Hmm. I've kept that as a goal for a very long time to always earn more than my age. It always seemed like something to look forward to. Funny, though, 25 grand at 25 seemed like a lot more money than 40 grand at 40. Maybe it is, especially in this economy.

I've been able to do what she suggested--keep my salary above my age. I transferred that to other areas too, like keep your weight under your age plus 100. For eg, if you're 40, then your weight should be roughly  140 and below. When 25, keep it at 125. Hmmm. Realistic? Probably at 25. Not so much at 40. It gets harder to keep it off. And if you're 5ft 2 1/2, 140 is kinda hefty.

One of the best things I ever did when I was 25 was to buy my first life insurance policy--a whole life. Between highschool and college, I used to sell insurance for a Vacation Insurance Program for highschoolers. It was there I saw the need. Now, my policy is almost 15 years old with a nice cash value. I've borrowed on it, used as collateral, and look forward to the nice annuity built into it where I'll get $1,000 a month for the rest of my life from 65. (Even with inflation, it might be the difference between my putting food on my table and going hungry.) Plus it's one of my legacies for my heirs as there's a death benefit as well. Even today, when my government agencies gives financial literacy workshops to the youth, I always bring it back to that. At 25, I had also started my first IRA. One rarely thinks of retirement at 25.

Monday, January 3, 2011

On Turning 40

In 2011, I will be 40 years old.

I'll take the compliments from people who say I don't look it. Yes, baby, if I can keep on looking 25 with my 40-year-old life experiences, then yes!!

With turning 40, comes the emotions of "why I didn't do this when I was 20," or "why did I do that was I was 20." At 40, I am a comprehensive compilation of all the good and all the bad decisions I made. I am who I am because of the younger me. Remember, when, back in the 20s, how invincible you were? "Shoot, ain't nothing could go wrong." "I am woman, hear me roar." "You can't tell me what to do." You better step off. 

Ah, I've certainly mellowed a lot.

I will like to use this blog--my very first--to explore turning 40, what it means. How I've changed, how our world has changed, how we've adapted to it (with all its new technology), where we're going, our perceptions, our realities. I will like to explore it all.

I turn 40 in June, so I have six months to examine this. I really want to find out exactly what turning 40 means to you. What would you have done differently, now that you're on this side of the pendulum and not that close to 20 any more.